Biblical View Toward Abuse

It is good to stop enabling and let the violent person experience the consequences of his or her sinful behavior. Galatians 6:7

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Biblical View Toward Abuse

Welcome to my first Blog. I’m excited to have you join me in my new journey. I have a passion for women who either have or are now living with the effects of emotional or physical abuse. When I wrote my book, “Becoming Visible, Letting Go of the Things that Hide Your True Beauty”, I had no way of knowing that my life would become interwoven with so many of you. As a survivor myself, it is my prayer that I can help others be overcomers. Today, I am using some truths from Leslie Vernick, a gifted writer, blogger, speaker, counselor, and coach who is relevant, insightful, and anchored in Biblical wisdom.

Abuse is always sin.  The Bible is clear. It is never an acceptable or appropriate way to communicate with someone. Psalm 11:5, Colossians 3:8, 19

Abuse is never an appropriate response to being provoked. Relationships in family, work, friendship, or anywhere else are made up of people and people are not perfect. So, we are all going to make mistakes and there is always fault on both sides but whatever has happened never makes abusive speech or behavior justified, even when provoked. Ephesians 4:26, Luke 6:45

The Biblical model of family does not entitle a husband to get his own way, make all the family decisions, and remove his wife’s right to choose. At the heart of most domestic abuse is the abuse of power over another person. Dignity is a gift from God, marriage does not entitle a husband to lie, mistreat, ignore, be cruel, crush or in any other way undermine his wife’s dignity.

Unrepentant sin always damages relationships and sometimes people. Sin separates us from God and from one another. Proverbs 1:15, 1 Corinthians 15:33

God’s purpose is to deliver the abused. We are to be the champions of the oppressed and abused.

It is good to protect yourself from violent people. Proverbs 27:12
It is good to expose the abuser. Ephesians 5:11
It is good not to allow someone to continue to sin against you. Matthew 18:15-17
It is good to stop enabling and let the violent person experience the consequences of his/her sinful behavior. Galatians 6:7
It is good to wait and see the fruits of repentance before initiating reconciliation.

“The Lord examines the righteous and the wicked. He hates the lover of violence.” (Psalm 11:5)

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